Below is a wonderful Ted Talk that demonstrates how we can use adversity (depression in this case ) to help us choose and heal – and “become” all that we can imagine for ourselves and more.

Please also notice how at the very end, the speaker got what she was truly seeking. This happened when she let go of the NEED to be the way she wanted. When she let go of the Attachment, the path was cleared for her to receive what she wanted and in the manner she wanted…

This story put me into tears because I experienced something similar:

When I was 23, and within my first year of marriage, I wanted a child more than anything in the world. Soon after, I became pregnant and felt that the presence inside me was a girl. I was ecstatic! I visited department stores and frequented the baby section. I prematurely bought baby dresses and baby shoes. I selected the crib and the stroller – and a name.

And one day, I had terrible cramps. I began to bleed so much that I  found myself in the hospital, the doctor telling me I had miscarried after two months of pregnancy. Not only was my baby dead, I felt dead inside…

I couldn’t stop crying.  

I cried for three years.

I became very, very depressed.

And when I went to a park or shopping and saw a child – any child – it would put me into a crying spell and into a deeper depression. 

I knew I could never be a mother. I blamed myself for the miscarriage and I hated myself for having some sort of “perceived” defect where I couldn’t have a child.

I became very apprehensive. Every month, when I wanted to conceive, my uterus would contract so that if there was any hope of a pregnancy, the fertilized egg couldn’t attach. Then I began to feel like I didn’t deserve to be a mother, and so my body reacted to this thought making sure it manifested.

I went to such a dark place that there was no deeper depth I could reach. Until one day I heard a small voice inside me that said to me: “There are so many children that need taking care of… You can adopt and give them love and bring them hope.”

When I realized how true that was, I accepted that path in my heart. I decided I would be open to adoption.

So, I let go of the idea of giving birth and embraced the possibility of adopting a child – maybe three.

And my unmalleable posture about how motherhood should be like changed. I now looked forward to my new family and the love and nurturing I could give to an innocent child who hadn’t been so fortunate in life.

Now when I saw a child with their mother at a park, I didn’t cry and I saw myself doing the same thing with my adopted child. I had a sense of hope and a renewed purpose. And for some reason, the days appeared sunnier. I was in joy, expecting my dream to be fulfilled.

But, not too long after that, I became very dizzy and nauseous. It was happening everyday. So, I went to my doctor – the one who told me I had miscarried – and told him that I wasn’t feeling well for days. He tested my urine and shortly afterwards came back. “You’re pregnant”, he said. 

Well, seven months later, I had my son who was eight pounds and a half. He couldn’t use the tiny dresses I had bought years back… But those served as a reminder to me of the following: how we are so attached to an outcome; how we become apprehensive through our own fears; how we are our own stumbling block; how we forget to “Let Go and Let God“. So, I’ve kept the baby dresses…

Since then, I have had three beautiful children that I’ve birthed and so many lessons that I’ve learned that have served to polish me into being who I am today. My children serve as teachers to me more than I have been to them. 

And life has a funny way of making us think we’re at the precipice and that any moment we’ll fall into an abyss. Now I think that this “feeling” is OK too. Because I know now that when I feel I’m about to lose it all; when I’m about to go broke; when I’m about to become alone; when I’m about to undergo a medical procedure or whatever it is that life ditches me, I’ll be OK no matter what. There is an invisible Force that I choose to align myself with that Always allows me to come to that inner peace with whatever I’m facing.

And then, I surrender to The All That Is! When I do that, I clear the path for all the Blessings that couldn’t get through until I let go! 

This is the moment when I become fully present and feel the compassion of an intelligent and loving force that blesses me beyond expectation, and inspires me to reinvent myself, so that I am re-birthed to my highest potential.

May you too experience healing, and may you find that place within that brings you peace and the hope that everything will always be alright.

– Ari Kopel

About the Author:

Ari Kopel is the Bestselling Author of “Spiritual Warfare & The Art of Deception: The Hijacking of Spirituality” and “Getting Back to Source: Tools for Connection, Protection and Empowerment”. Both became #1 Bestsellers and #1 New Releases in Amazon.

She specializes in Spiritual Psychology and is a counselor for those who are seeking to have a more profound experience with the God of their understanding and become fully empowered to help themselves, their loved ones and humanity.

Ari is also the founder of 2012Emergence.com and the radio show host and creator of“Shattering the Matrix” on BlogTalkRadio.

You can get in touch with Ari by going to her website: AriKopel.com